New ask Hacker News story: Ask HN: How to deal with dysfunctional family? Neg. impact to my mental health

Ask HN: How to deal with dysfunctional family? Neg. impact to my mental health
4 by dys_family_guy | 2 comments on Hacker News.
Figured I'd ask any fellow hackers. I'm considering getting therapy or something because it just feels wrong to me to go no-contact with my blood relatives. However, the amount of gas lighting and toxic in fighting is really driving me crazy. I feel like I'm living in a bipolar reality where people argue, gaslight, and say awful things one moment, and the next moment people seem to be okay with each other. And repeat. For 35 years. Thankfully I do live far away from most of these people, but what has really made my mood go down is I have elderly relatives and they and others still argue with each other. They also take jabs at me and got angry at me for being "too smart" and that they're too stupid to juggle a dozen tasks at a time like me, because I made a suggestion/plan for how they can do something they've been fighting over instead of executing it. It is really frustrating and so I've kept my distance, but like these are my own parents and relatives. I feel alone without them, even if I have my own family.. I want something functional where I can feel comfortable taking my kids to visit their relatives without them having to experience arguing, loud yelling, and gaslighting over past mistakes some relatives made. Any advice on what I should do? Its a new year, and I don't want to keep feeling sad or guilty for thinking maybe I shouldn't help and just stay out of it..

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